More and more men are asking me--every day--how they can enjoy their sex more. Creative sexual expression seems to become especially important when we've been living with the same man with whom we also would like to enjoy having more sex, more often, and more expressively...
I actually literally created this set of exercises for one of the first couples who contracted me to support them in spicing up their sex life. I offered these exercises because I use them myself, with my lovers! I find that even with lovers I love very much, we each have a craving for more raw, primal, exciting sex together. Sometimes we seek it from others, and then...when we're together in bed, if the energy seems to be lacking for the HOT SEX we actually want, we frequently use these games and experience completely miraculous, mind-blowing results.
One of us can be sleepy or tired one minute, feeling like we're a complete failure as a lover, and then...we use one of these games, and literally--within as little as 3 minutes--we're passionate lovers again, as if the lethargy or anxiety of the previous moment never existed.
I hope these exercises will bless your sex life as much as they have mine! Do it! Enjoy it! Fuck-YUMMM!
Game 2: How could I pleasure your body for the next 3 minutes?
Game 3: What would happen if I gave you what I think you need (or want), sweet lover?
Game 4: Indulge yourself in enjoying your man in the way that most pleases you.
This is personally one of my favorite games, because this type of game because your over-worked mind--whether you're the active or passive partner--no longer has any other choice than to stop and let go.
First, choose a SAFE WORD such as the first random thing you see (ie. "flower arrangement" or "cat"), or otherwise use the Universal safe words, "Green-Yellow-Red". "Green" means "keep fuckin' going, lover!" "Yellow" means, "I'm feeling uncomfortable or approaching a limit and need you to pause what we're doing so I can check in with you." "Red" means "I need to stop what we're going immediately".
Now...Have your way with him, unless he says the agreed-upon safeword, starting with a totally do-able amount of time, such as 3 or 4 minutes, then maybe increasing the length of time each time/day you try this experiment.
Game 5: The Dirty Talk Game
I just came out with a new video I made with my colleague, Will Tantra, called "The Dirty Talk Game". I think you might really like this game! You can view it by clicking here. I often offer it as a bonus to men who do couples' work with me, especially ones who want to do a series of sessions. The name is a bit of a misnomer, since the game is more about learning to ask for what you want, rather than a requirement that you learn to "talk dirty", but hey...speaking what you've been holding back from saying is--inevitably--exciting!
For now, here is the basic format of the exercise, in written form, which is a good exercise to do without a timer.
Now Switch Roles!