BRAD AMBERHEART

Sacred Intimacy * Tantric Coaching * Erotic Magic for Men

Brad's Orgy Guide

a few simple suggestions on how to enjoy the fuck out of yourself during a sex party

AFFIRMATION:
Everything we share here is of maximum possible benefit to each other and the world.  We're building a culture of intimate lovers, so that there's plenty of good sex for all!

MEN'S SEX SPACE is IMPORTANT

It's vital and important to share fun, EXCITEMENT, and even down-right RAUCOUS sexual expression in the company of other men

OK...so a lot of us have heard about sex parties and fantasized about sex parties, and now...you're actually going to one!  This might not be your first rodeo...then again, it might.  


The reality is that regardless of what our past experience has been, today we have an opportunity to do it again and open up to new possibilities.

I've decided to create this "user-friendly" guide to sex parties with the hope of eliminating all unnecessary fears and opening the way to more FUN for everybody.  

So here is my list of suggestions.  Some of them will speak to you.  Others, you'll just skip over.  See what jumps off the page and lands in your heart, body and soul!  OoooYEAH!

Tip #1:  Be Grateful you get to watch men FUCK! 

OK...so just standing and watching men FUCK is FUN!  We can celebrate the fact that we're at a SEX party where lots of SEX is likely to be happening.  We already have a lot to celebrate and enjoy, just by being here.  The more grateful we feel for what we already have, the less time and energy we have to lose thinking about what we don't have or what we wish we had.  Being immersed in a sea of naked, excited men is a special gift, and here we are!  OMG!

Tip #2:  See if you can find complete contentment in your body, just by standing there.

OK...so do you remember a time, maybe when you were on day 4 of a deeply-relaxing vacation and you felt like even just standing and looking at a flower, breathing the air, or taking a slow walk was immensely pleasurable?  A  lot of us take vacations to find that place of peace.  My invitation is to look for it here, now, at this sex party.  Practice just standing in place, taking deep breaths, and feeling how good it feels to be free of all obligations, enjoying the scenery.  Get a warm cup of tea.  Get cozy.  Sit and breathe and relax and watch for awhile.  You don't have to do anything!  You could even repeat to yourself I have everything I need, and I am completely at peace right now.

Tip #3:  Remember--there are LOTS of ways to play!  Try them out!

This suggestion is related to Tips #1 and #2, and takes the experience to a brand-new level.  A lot of us, having been conditioned by gay culture and porn, will walk into a sex party ready to have SEX, with an etched image in our consciousness of what that SEX is going to look like.   What else is possible?  Here are a few possibilities:  Try putting on a blindfold and writing around naked or in your underwear, enjoying the touch of men's hands all over your body while you caress yourself.  Consider daring to ask someone for exactly what you would love to experience, and if they say no, then keep asking other people.  See what it's like to sit and meditate and watch the action while your cock throbs and you breathe energy up and down your spine.  Walk into a group of naked men and get exhilarated by the touch of their bodies against you.  You might even get so excited you cum all over yourself.  Wouldn't that be fun?  If you have concerns about your cock rubbing against all kinds of bodies, then try it in your underwear and discover that it's every bit as fun scantily-clad as it is naked!  (Keep reading more ideas for creative, life-giving sexual FUN in Tip #4).  

Tip #4:   Set whatever safer-sex boundaries are necessary for you so that you can walk away from this experience feeling excited and deeply satisfied, completely free from anxiety, fear, or doubt.

People have widely varying standards and expectations about what "safer sex" means.  Some of my friends who are hetero-flexible or otherwise fairly new to man-man sex fun seem to have extremely high anxiety about disease, so I tell them--and all of the other men who carry fear into their sex--"Do whatever it takes so that you can LET GO and thoroughly enjoy yourself, without fear, and then walk away feeling satisfied and worry-free afterwards".  For some people, that simply means always using condoms for receptive or active anal sex.  For others, it might even mean using a condom for oral sex!  For some guys, sliding around all over other hot naked guys in sweat and oil, cock-to-cock, with a finger up the ass is PLENTY of fun (I just happen of those guys!).  Other guys might feel most excited by enjoying lots of hot man-to-man fun in underwear--even getting so excited they CUM in their fucking shorts--but never taking the underwear off.  Lots of guys are on PrEP and enjoy condom-less sex because they're on a medication that prevents HIV transmission.  And it's also true that  plenty of of guys just fucking LOVE taking a huge load up the ass from a guy who's HIV+ with an undetectable viral load because they've come to know that "undetectable = un-transmittable".  YOU get to decide your desires and limits. Decide what kind of ultimately-hot FUN you could have, and still walk away completely free from all doubts!   Decide what your limits are at the beginning of the evening.  Ask for what you need. Yeah, do that!  Then, next time, you can play by the same rules or make new ones.  

Tip #5:  Begin to Embrace & Acknowledge the HEALING POWER OF SEXUAL PLEASURE

I can testify that I've been enjoying a multiplicity of hot sex-fun with a multitude of men for the past 20 years, and I've yet to have an STI (sexually transmitted infection).  How can that be?  The simplest answer is that I treat every single encounter as an enhancement to my health and vitality.  I also make clear-as-a-bell choices about whether to use condoms, whether I like condom-less sex with guys who are own PrEP, and whether I even care about fucking at all, considering how much fucking FUN I have just by getting naked and skin-to-skin with a man's horny body.  Clear, conscious choices, combined with an imbedded, heart-and-soul intention to treat every encounter as an enhancement to health, means that we can walk away from every single hot sex-fun-fling feeling healthier and more revitalized and balanced than we did when we started.

OK!  So now, let me hear a nice, loud FUCK YEAH!  SEE YOU AT THE ORGY!